This is bound to ruffle some feathers, so to speak, and understandably so: When we speak of witches, it's usually in a derogatory fashion. But just for the purposes of this blog entry, let me serve up a working definition of witchcraft, as follows: Witchcraft refers to that aspect of feminine power that is beyond control and tends to defy social norms. Witchcraft scares people, especially men. In fact, the more powerful a man is, the more threatening witchcraft becomes. Powerful or not, however, the last thing any self-respecting man wants is an unbridled force to come along and upset the balance... or so it would seem.
As men, we live with a peculiar contradiction. On one hand, we love a certain degree of predictability. This is particularly true of our wives. Their love and attention give us a quiet sense of confidence and security. At the same time, however, I'm reminded of the proverb that says, "To face war and not flee is the hallmark of men." That is, the hunter/warrior instinct in men keeps us in a state of readiness - even eagerness - to face death if necessary. Consequently, we're always looking for the edge. And, because we're always in search of a little adventure, even responsible men are invigorated by risk. Herein lies the contradiction.
The test of enjoying mature, progressive masculinity is to create ironclad order, balanced by free flowing spontaneity. So, what does this have to do with witchcraft? Feminine energy - especially women - provide exactly the kinds of challenges that draw men into spontaneous thoughts and actions. Here's the catch, guys; the "Divine She" - the archetypal woman - will continue to return to the energy that you cannot match. If you cannot deal with your wife's sadness, guess what? The Divine She will give you a few days of blissful relaxation and then, like a merry-go-round, return to the energy of despair. Until you can transcend the urge to shut down or cave in emotionally, the Divine She will keep you in the loop of temporary happiness, conflict and despair. You'll SWEAR you've been bewitched!
Here's something I have just discovered that I want to share with all my Good Brothers out there, trying to make it right with their wives, girlfriends, sisters and mothers. When a woman loves you, EVERYTHING she does is to help you to become the great man she knows you are DESTINED to become... EVERYTHING. As such, she becomes the lens through which you can see your relationship to the entire universe. What she loves about you is what the whole world will love. What makes her sad about you is what will upset the whole world. What she complains about is what everybody will fault you for. In the same ways that she attacks you, so will the world attack you. After all, nobody knows your weakness better than the woman you love. What she offers you is exactly what the world will offer you.
Here, it's tempting to think that your job is to resort to appeasing your wife or living to please her. That would be a fatal mistake, however. The truly evolved response to what seems to be relentless waves of witchcraft is actually to look THROUGH it as if it were a telescope or a magnifying glass. Learn to see the world and yourself through the eyes of the woman who loves you. Accept her perspective and get more and more grounded in the spirit of love, from whence you have come. Your objective is to demonstrate patient, undisturbed devotion to the Good Condition as you face the feminine challenge. You will be blessed with an even greater sense of fearlessness than you had ever imagined. This is what it means to live the medicine that will heal your life and heal the lives of those you are destined to serve.
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Obafemi Origunwa, MA
Thought leader, Ifa priest and author of four definitive books, Obafemi Origunwa inspires metamorphosis through living the medicine that will heal your life and heal the lives of the people you're destined to serve.