Change is synonymous with uncertainty. If you're like most people, uncertainty reminds you of all the things that could go wrong. Changes to your income or expenses, changes in your living conditions, changes in your relationship status all create lots of uncertainty and generate fear.
One of the most difficult things about change is that you lose the ability to decide what to do next. In truth, that's the number one question people ask me in the face of great uncertainty: "What am I supposed to do now?" And although there are many details involved with managing change, I want to share the first step in reducing your anxiety.
Step #1: “You must face reality.” Reality starts with yourself. Before you look anywhere for answers, you need to look yourself in the mirror and recognize your role in creating the problem. But you can't stop there.
Then, you must assemble your team and come to some agreement about the root causes. Note that your team is not a group of cheerleaders, enablers and yes men. Instead, your team is that group of people who will invest time, money and energy in helping you to improve, even if that means not getting your way.
If you're like most people I work with, you've got that one friend, who is the designated truth teller. Under any circumstances, you can depend on this person to tell it like it is. But in order to create enduring change without fear, it's not enough to have one person on your team who is a truth teller. Everyone on the team must be candid in sharing the entire truth, no matter how painful it is. How else can you solve problems if you don’t acknowledge their existence?
Your team has to recognize what's really going on before problems can be solved. Failure to involve the team will invariably lead to short-term fixes that merely address the symptoms of the problem and ensure that you'll be back in the same situation shortly.
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Obafemi Origunwa, MA
Thought leader, Ifa priest and author of four definitive books, Obafemi Origunwa inspires metamorphosis through living the medicine that will heal your life and heal the lives of the people you're destined to serve.