People seek Ifa because they want to anticipate the future. They seem to understand that the ability to look down the road of possibilities and accurately foresee upcoming events will give them the advantage. The big problem I have noticed is that most people lack the ability to overcome the natural human tendency to react to things as they take place. Stephen Covey calls it tending to what is urgent, instead of pausing to make time to plan for what is truly important. How many times have you known what to expect in the long run but you got sidetracked by some type of emergency that just cropped up out of nowhere? Then, before you know it, you're playing the role of firefighter, running from crisis to crisis.
More exactly, in my experience, most people are not really planning for the future. They are actually planning for what they WANT their future to be. Their plans are vague and lack measurable outcomes. The stronger their hope in the desired outcomes, the more delusional people become. This is especially true in matters of the heart. When it comes to romance, I have seen very few people who are really serious about setting plans based on reality.
A crucial part of my work is to help you to navigate the difference between what is urgent versus what is urgent:
Important activities have an outcome that leads to the achievement of your goals, whether these are professional or personal.
Urgent activities demand immediate attention, and are often associated with the achievement of someone else's goals.
When you focus on what is important, you will be compelled to do certain things that most people neglect, because they do not belong to this world, and produce no visible effect; and to avoid doing other things that most people prefer to do, because they to this world, and have visible effects. That is, most of us concentrate on the urgent needs because the consequences of not dealing with them are immediate. But over time, we cannot see the forest for the trees.
Check out Covey's Urgent/Important Matrix. It is a powerful way to prioritize. Using it helps you to focus on what's really important. This is the way you move from "firefighting" into a position where you can experience real spiritual development. In the lower left corner, you have low importance and low urgency items. They are distractions, which should be avoided. In the upper right corner, you have high importance and high urgency items. This are those critical activities what will produce the greatest contribution to your visionary goals. Try drawing up a to do list every day and prioritize the items according to this rubric. Let me know what kinds of results you get.