"I know what you want. But I am afraid to even let you know that I understand, let alone give it to you. I am so obsessed with protecting my own self-image that I would rather LOOK like what you want than actually BE it. Deep inside, I know the same is true for you. You know what I want but you're afraid to give it to me. Instead you give me hollow imitations of what I crave most. Consequently, our relationship is cluttered with falseness and pretense. The most we can enjoy is temporary happiness, a little joy inside our tears. The question is, can we do better? What would it take for us to create a more meaningful relationship as true partners, committed to something that activates our deepest desires and highest aspirations? This is exactly what it means to live the medicine."