Apetebii, Light of the Shrine & Temple

Tako, tabo, ejiwapo is a proverb that tells us, 'Maleness and femaleness, together, in twoness." The efficacy of this combination is exemplified through the institutionalization of the unique relationship between babalawo and apetebii. That is, there is an interdependence between the Ifa priest and his wife, who is known as apetebii. Stated differently, the babalawo's function is only made whole by his relationship to his wife, the apetebii. In this instance, as she carries out her duties in service to her husband's Ifa, the apetebii protects him and brings numerous blessings into his family. Ifa is replete with examples wherein apetebii has saved Orunmila's live, helped him solve impossible dilemmas and restored balance to an otherwise destructive situation. Likewise, there are a variety of reasons why a woman's spiritual mission can only be completed through marriage to a babalawo. Sometimes, it is for her health. Other times, it is because of spiritual protection. Still other times, her ability to give birth can only be realized through her relationship with a babalawo. Ultimately, Orisa Lifestyle strongly reinforces the inescapable need for reciprocal energy, which is perfectly expressed in the saying, tako, tabo, ejiwapo.