Patient Love

When you love someone, set them free. Your heart will ache. You will feel lost and all alone. On top of that, minutes will seem like hours and hours will feel like days. The suffering will be great. As painful as the experience is, however, the benefits far outweigh the discomfort. 

People say that love is a verb, and therefore connotes action. But action can be attached to desired outcomes. We pray,  divine and sacrifice with the hopes of gaining in one way or another.  Love can be that way, too.  You may make love to your partner the way you hope he or she will make love to you. And when you don't get what you want, when you don't feel reciprocated, what happens? Your feelings get hurt and you withdraw your love. 

When you love someone without trying to control, coerce or cajole them, it takes  as much patience as it does sentiment. That is, you can say that When you love someone, you let them BE.  At times, they will be needy. Other times, they will be distant. Their personality may be introverted or it may be extroverted. Whoever they are, love them by letting them BE.

Patience is the key. Your goal is not necessarily to do anything to prove or demonstrate your love. Instead, your objective is to let yourself be in love at all times. That is, you must stay connected to the feelings of love that you have for your partner or spouse. The same is true in relation to your children, siblings or parents. Love and patience are inward practices that will cause you to emanate something that permeates, yet also transcends all behaviors. Live the medicine. Learn more in my course, the Three Golden Keys of Meaningful Change. 

Obafemi Origunwa, MA | www.ObafemiO.com