The Gift and the Wound Are Born Together

Tribulation does not come without its blessings
The good and the bad are always together
This was Ifa's message to Owokosi Eniyan Kosunwon, 
When you have no money, people will not accompany you
He was advised not to be become dejected because he was poverty-stricken 
He should keep a good name
Bitterleaf has a sweet after taste
He was asked to sacrifice so that his adversity might turn to prosperity
- Holy Odu IworiOse

There are times in your life when you're missing something. It seems like everything is in place but somehow, you still cannot manage to bring it all together, "just right." You may have had the experience of things coming together and falling apart at the exact same time. That is, just when you're getting one aspect of your life together, another aspect starts to fall completely apart. If you're not careful, you'll lose sight of your blessing and focus only on the wound - or fear thereof.  The blessing and the wound seem to stand in such stark contrast to one another that all you can do is to run as fast as you can, away from the wound and into the blessing. This is the epitome of superficial change. The deep truth, however, is that sometimes, the wound is precisely what enabled your blessing.  

Like childbirth, which is a wound of unique proportions, every phase of transformation results from painful ordeals. Even more importantly, we choose the people and circumstances that are perfectly suited to create those experiences that we desperately need in order to enjoy meaningful change. Let me make the distinction between superficial change and meaningful change. Superficial change is when you run from your relationship problems and take refuge in your job, your friends or another partner, for example. Meaningful change is when you drop your emotional anchor very deep and face YOURSELF in the relationship:

1. You get honest about everything you're gaining, developing and becoming through the relationship.
2. You get honest about everything you're being invited to learn, develop and grow into.
3. You get honest about all the ways in which you refuse to change and all the pain your refusal is causing.
4. Finally, you decide to stop running, to stop evading and to stop deflecting so that you can pursue your blessings AND heal your wounds at the same time. 

Learning from your discomfort requires courage. It also intensifies your self confidence. When you decide that your desire to achieve personal greatness is greater than your fear of pain, you gain the authority to learn from the experience. Find out more in the new course, 3 Golden Keys of Meaningful Change.

Thanks for signing up!